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4/26/2017 10:28:00 AM
Reader caught snooping on father's computer

DEAR HARRIETTE: I was recently caught snooping for the prenuptial agreement of my father and his new wife. My father caught me on his computer sifting through his legal documents, so what I was looking for was obvious. He didn't demand an explanation, and I just left the room because I didn't want to explain myself.  

Should I ask my father to speak about this with me, or is it none of my business? I want to know because his last wife took half of his estate. -- Safety First, Denver 

DEAR SAFETY FIRST: Given your father's history, it may be a good idea for you to address his situation with his new wife upfront. Ask your father if you can have a candid conversation with him. If he agrees, express your concern about the safety of his resources. Make it clear that you don't harbor any negative feelings about his new wife, but since he experienced such a huge loss with his previous wife, you want to make sure that he is properly protected. Ask him if he made a prenup with her. You might also suggest that he speak to an attorney to make clear how he can handle his estate now, even after he is married. This should include whatever your father intends to share with you. 

If he refuses to talk about it, back down. But make it clear to him that you are looking out for his best interests, and that's the only reason you are bringing it up.  

 

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend, "Luisa," moved into my apartment while looking for a place of her own. Although she promised me that she'd be with me for only a few weeks, this has turned into two months. I don't mind her living with me, but I think it's time to negotiate rent. How can I tell Luisa that it is time for her to start paying? -- New Roommate, Jersey City, New Jersey 

DEAR NEW ROOMMATE: Call a meeting with Luisa when you have time to talk. Ask her when she thinks she will be moving into her own place. This is important in establishing a timeline that you can attempt to hold her responsible for honoring. Next, point out that she initially asked if she could stay with you for a few weeks, and this has extended to two months. 

 

Let her know that if she thinks she will need to stay more than another week, it is time for her to split the rent with you. She may balk at this requirement. If she does, tell her that you understand this is a difficult time for her, which is why you let her stay with you temporarily. Clarify that while you did not invite her to live with you, you have welcomed her into your home. At this point, she is more like a roommate. While she stays with you, she needs to contribute to the household expenses, including rent. This is not an unreasonable request. 

 

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.) 




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