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9/13/2017 8:50:00 AM
Friend takes online posting too far

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who loves to take photos and videos with her phone. No matter where we are or what we are doing, we catch her posting and even streaming live. It's crazy. Last week, my other friends and I caught her posting in the bathroom at a restaurant where we were eating. Don't get me wrong. We all like to take pictures and post sometimes, but she has taken it to a different level. We want her to stop including us in these posts. What can we say or do to get her to give us some privacy? -- Out of Bounds, Denver 


DEAR OUT OF BOUNDS: Tell your friend that if she posts any more pictures of you without your permission, you won't invite her to hang out with you in the future. You have to make good on your threat. If she does stream or post and you spot yourself, tell her she violated your agreement and you don't want to see her for a while. If you get the rest of your friends to reinforce the temporary friend ban, she may get the message. 


In this day and age, when every moment can be captured and shared, you cannot control much. You should be able to come to an agreement on boundaries of privacy with your close friends. Otherwise, you have the right to exclude them from your inner circle. 


DEAR HARRIETTE: My teenage son promised to do his summer homework throughout the summer. Whenever my husband and I would ask how he was progressing, he said he was doing fine. Today I discovered he has so much more work to do, and school is about to start. Even if he works four hours a day, he probably won't be finished in time, and now it will be cramming rather than pacing it all out. 


I am so disappointed in him. We were clear about what he had to do in order to have certain privileges. Now, as parents, we look like idiots because we trusted him. What can we do now to get him on track? -- Wayward Son, Boston 


DEAR WAYWARD SON: Children, especially teenagers, need to be monitored. Asking if a child has completed work is not enough. You need the child to show you proof. What you can do now and into the school year is to limit privileges until the work is done. For now, take away his phone and other electronics. Have him work nonstop on the assignments that are due so that he can complete them. Check over his work daily -- even if you don't fully understand it. Make sure he did the work from beginning to end. 


When school starts, be sure to continue to pay attention to his assignments and verify that he is doing the work daily. Be in touch with his teachers, and work together to help set a good work schedule that your son can follow. Let him use his cellphone only when he has proven to you he is taking his schoolwork seriously. 

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