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Reader flipping out over son's safety

Saturday, July 23, 2016

Anderson Jewelers

Dad insists on talking business after work
Friday, July 22, 2016

Reader wants to connect with single brother
Thursday, July 21, 2016

Reader wants better connection with grandmother
Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Reader resents being expected to cook
Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Catcalling employees must be stopped
Monday, July 18, 2016

Teen reader wants to make more money
Saturday, July 16, 2016

Teen reader wants to make more money
Friday, July 15, 2016

Stepsister should find her own source of employment
Thursday, July 14, 2016

Reader having trouble including new boyfriend
Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Reader wants to talk issues, not fads
Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Reader eager to connect with new co-workers
Monday, July 11, 2016

Dog acts up while reader is on vacation
Saturday, July 9, 2016

Reader refuses to stay in house with guns
Friday, July 8, 2016

Son's obsession with money worries reader
Thursday, July 7, 2016

Nontraditional wedding causes confusion
Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Friends do not value reader's books
Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Harriette shares Independence Day thoughts
Monday, July 4, 2016

Reader needs help with firing receptionist
DEAR HARRIETTE: I work at a small stone company. Recently, I've been noticing my receptionist has been slacking. She forgets appointments, doesn't answer every phone call and doesn't forward emails or calls. I know it is time to fire her, but I've never had to do this. I've held my position for only a year, and I don't know what to do. I read online that you can either tell the employee a white lie to make it easier or just be completely honest while firing someone. Should I let her down easy or tell her the truth? I don't want her to resent me forever. -- You're Fired, Memphis, Tennessee
Saturday, July 2, 2016

Reader wants to go on spontaneous dates with boyfriend
DEAR HARRIETTE: Going on dates with my boyfriend has turned into a chore. We always do the same dinner or same movie theater. I have suggested doing an active date, and he always wonders why we can't just get dinner instead. He doesn't want to go on dates that are out of his comfort zone. This can't be about money, because I could pay for rock climbing or kayaking. We could even make food and have a picnic in the park! 
Friday, July 1, 2016

Reader debates taking care of sister's kids
Thursday, June 30, 2016

Mother-in-law has a problem with reader
Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Reader uninterested in getting back with ex-boyfriend
Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Boyfriend closed off after open relationship suggestion
Monday, June 27, 2016

Reader needs to motivate drifting nephew
Saturday, June 25, 2016

Reader disappointed in friend participating in affair
Friday, June 24, 2016

Reader nervous for phone interview
Thursday, June 23, 2016

Reader's past doesn't mean he needs therapy
Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Image of dying woman sticks with reader
Tuesday, June 21, 2016

High school student must defend dream career
Monday, June 20, 2016

Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole
DEAR HARRIETTE: I feel like sometimes my weight gets in the way of my dreams. I know that sounds really insecure, but I honestly believe that's why I haven't progressed much. I want to do so much, but I feel like people see my weight before they see my talent. I'm tired of it. I'm tired of being told, "You're (blank) for a big girl." Just because I may weigh more, that doesn't mean I can't do anything like anyone else. Everyone always sees my weight first.
Saturday, June 18, 2016

Reader hesitates to watch friends get wasted
Friday, June 17, 2016

Career-minded reader has less time for family
Thursday, June 16, 2016

Reluctant roustabout receives repeat request
Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Neighbors' child plays in the danger zone
Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Commuter wonders whether to awaken sleepers
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a commuter and take the train. On a few occasions, I've had a sleepless night and end up falling asleep on the train. The few times I've done this I wake up in the station and am almost late for work. I'm thankful I've never had anything stolen from me.
Monday, June 13, 2016

Reader cuts ties with unsupportive friends
Saturday, June 11, 2016

Sister offers unsolicited fashion advice
Friday, June 10, 2016

Reader considers money-making opportunity
Thursday, June 9, 2016

European reader questions tradition of wakes
Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Friend recently out of treatment wouldn't see reader
Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Reader uninterested in attending prom
Monday, June 6, 2016

Bankrupt cousin won't stop partying
DEAR HARRIETTE: My cousin just got out of Chapter 11 bankruptcy. The legal process and his financial situation spun out of control, so he just got back on his feet. Everyone thought this crisis would cause him to pull it together and mature quickly. Much to everyone's surprise, he's acting like a teenager, and the entire family doesn't know what to do. He is going out to nightclubs, buying bottles and getting so buzzed he can barely stand. Nobody expected this behavior from him. 
Saturday, June 4, 2016

Reader wants to confront fling's girlfriend
Friday, June 3, 2016

Reader feels guilty for not being sad about grandmother
Thursday, June 2, 2016

Widowed reader wants to find connection
Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Reader needs to drink before social events
DEAR HARRIETTE: I feel the need to get buzzed before any sort of social interaction. I do not consider myself an alcoholic, but I know I interact with less trepidation after a few drinks. After suggesting we drink a bit before a small gathering, my best friend looked at me like I was crazy! I explained how I feel, and I know most people feel better after a little bit of alcohol is in them. I didn't mean to imply that the company we were going to be with drives to me drink, I simply wanted to be the most outgoing me I can be. 
Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Reader feels stuck in marriage with controlling husband
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been married for almost 10 years. In this time, I have had one son with my husband. I am my husband's seventh wife; some he married to give them green cards, others were for love. Either way, all of these women divorced him at some point. He has one other son who is 25 years older than our son. 
Monday, May 30, 2016

Reader questions company name ramifications
Saturday, May 28, 2016

Reader faces insensitivity from boyfriend's parents
Friday, May 27, 2016

Reader unsure about going into business with friend
Thursday, May 26, 2016

Older aunt is overwhelmed by dog
Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Friends don't approve of reader's boyfriend
DEAR HARRIETTE: None of my friends likes my boyfriend, but I am head over heels for him. They just don't understand that he's different when we're alone as opposed to when people are observing our relationship.
Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Reader needs to renegotiate contract with friend
Monday, May 23, 2016

Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole
DEAR HARRIETTE: This summer I hooked up with my good friend who had recently broken up with her boyfriend. She was vulnerable and upset, and I was too nervous to reject her. I am gay, but I haven't told anyone yet, so it's weird. 
Saturday, May 21, 2016

Reader annoyed when friend shares too much
DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my friends is a very open woman. She likes to talk about every aspect of her life and doesn't think to notice who else is listening. At a cocktail party recently, she was talking about how she uses Nair on her husband's back because they agreed he is too hairy. She then went on to say how great their bedroom life is. My other friend and I were shocked. Usually, we can just laugh about how "Carol" overshares, but I thought this was way too personal. I do not want to hear it. 
Thursday, May 19, 2016

Reader concerned for newly out friend
DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my closest friends recently came out of the closet at 25. I was so happy for him as he began exploring the gay scene in our city, but my joy has slowly turned into concern. He has entered a promiscuous phase, and I am concerned, not just because of sexually transmitted infections, but also because our local scene, especially as people of color, is not so big. 
Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Reader is lukewarm about temperature debate
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a hostess at a restaurant. I am 25. I work very close to a 50-and-over community that does not allow children. Many of the women complain to me about the temperature in the restaurant. Occasionally, they will admit that they are going through menopause, and other times they will skirt around the topic. I receive many complaints about the heat of the restaurant.
Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Friend's racist tirade upsets reader
DEAR HARRIETTE: I had a white best friend growing up in our small town. We were close throughout high school, but we lost contact during college. After 15 years apart, we recently reconnected through Facebook. It was like old times again. That is, until about a month ago. He recently posted a meme that pointed out the differences in how police handle black suspects versus white suspects, accompanied by a horribly racist tirade. 
Monday, May 16, 2016

Reader wants friend to keep divorce advice to herself
Saturday, May 14, 2016

Widower wants son to meet his girlfriend
Friday, May 13, 2016

Reader baffled by friend's sudden reversal
Thursday, May 12, 2016

Dad thinks daughter's car smells like trouble
Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Reader feels he has lost touch with grandson
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a grandfather to two lovely children. My grandson is 14 years old now. As recently as two years ago, we would go to the zoo or the carnival together. Now, it seems as though my grandson is too "cool" for me. I keep attempting to reach out to him, but now I just hear crickets. I don't want to stop his youthful fun. I just want to be involved in his life.
Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Mom worries about toddler's development
Monday, May 9, 2016

Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am finding myself going crazy. I accepted a new management role within my company about four months ago, and while I should be happy, I cannot be any more stressed. I'm rushing, so I'm not eating well. I haven't been sleeping right, and gym time has been nonexistent. I'm meeting my deadlines and executing my work well, but I know this is not going to be a sustainable strategy.  How can I get some order back in my life so I can regain my sanity and my health? -- Not Trying to Die at 40, Philadelphia
Saturday, May 7, 2016

Reader needs to defend daughter from judgment
Friday, May 6, 2016

Reader upset that mom is acting like a teenager
Thursday, May 5, 2016

Reader worried about friends' pill use
Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole
DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband is eight years younger than me. We've been married for 10 years now, and our age difference has never been an issue. 
Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Dear Harriette by Harriette Cole
DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband and I have been together for six years. I love him with all my heart and would do almost anything for him. I say "almost" because his recent request isn't an easy one. Normally, if he asks me to do something, I'm there; I'll do it without hesitation. It's always been that way in our relationship because we love and trust each other. I overlooked our age difference -- he's 38, and I'm 24 -- because I never thought that it would come between us. 
Monday, May 2, 2016

Body makeup rubs reader the wrong way
Saturday, April 30, 2016

Former bookworm son trying to gain popularity
Friday, April 29, 2016

Reader shocked by parents' marijuana stash
Thursday, April 28, 2016

One-on-one meetings give reader anxiety
Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Dear Harriette
DEAR HARRIETTE: I don't know if I'm going in the right direction. I hate my job, but it pays the bills. It also allows me to live comfortably. I want a job that I love that allows me to live this way. 
Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Reader dumbs herself down to find dates
Monday, April 25, 2016

Trinity Dodge Fixed

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