11/4/2019 7:17:00 AM Sick son
doesn't want to miss school
DEAR HARRIETTE: It seems like everybody in my house has come down with a cold or something. My son is barking like a dog, as my mother used to say. It seems like a regular cold, but I know he should rest. He is worried that he is going to miss an important test in school. He is also afraid that if he goes to school, he may end up getting other kids sick. He went in one day already, and a teacher wouldn't let him in her classroom. How can I help him get well while still staying current in school? -- Sick Kid
DEAR SICK KID: As a parent, you need to step in as the voice of reason and authority. If your son is sick and potentially contagious, he should not go to school -- period.
You should take your son to the doctor to find out exactly what's wrong with him and how you can support his healing. While it could just be a cold, you don't know what he's got. Get him evaluated, and request a medical note excusing him from school. You should also contact the school directly to let them know that your son has been ill, which is why you kept him out. Ask for makeup dates for any tests and extended deadlines for homework that occurred while he was out. Don't send him back to school until he is well enough to go without making others ill.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I went to an event last weekend and ran into a man who used to be a huge crush for me. I haven't seen him in years. That night I had a dream that he kissed me; I blushed even in my sleep. I realize that I still like him, even after all this time. We are both single, but it's been like seven or eight years since we have seen each other. We did exchange numbers. Should I call him? Should I tell him about my dream? -- Smitten
DEAR SMITTEN: It sounds like only time has passed, not your crush. Before you do anything, go back down memory lane and recall what your relationship was like with this man years ago. You say he was your crush. Did he ever share your passion? If it was one-sided then, it could be the same now.
If the attraction was not obviously two-sided back in the day, cool your jets. You may not be able to trust your instincts now. I recommend that you do nothing. If this man is interested in you, let him make the first move. Otherwise, don't leap backward into a time warp that didn't serve you back then.
Let's say that something about this moment makes you feel that the attraction is real; I still recommend that you let him make the first move. In this way, you will have assurance that he is contacting you because he wants to, rather than because he is responding to your call.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to email@example.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.