12/29/2020 9:03:00 AM Creativity required for online family reunion
DEAR HARRIETTE: My whole family has spread out in different directions since the death of my grandmother. Several of my aunts and uncles moved around the country and didn't call or email any of the family to let us know where they are. I've mostly realized how spread out we are from social media. My cousins and I are pretty close, but it doesn't seem like anyone cares to keep in contact. Everyone has kind of built their own lives and never looked back.
It's been a long, crazy year, so I've been thinking about starting a tradition of a family reunion to get everyone in one place; with COVID-19, that obviously can't happen. I've been thinking about a Zoom reunion, but I know that they aren't going to put in any effort if it's just a huge video chat with 30 of us talking over one another. What are some other ways that I can get my family to reconnect in the peak of COVID-19? -- Family Reunion
DEAR FAMILY REUNION: It's time to get creative. Enlist one or two cousins who might be interested in renewing ties. Meet with them to brainstorm ideas on your family reunion. Things to consider: bingo featuring clues about the family; storytelling hour where each of you is responsible for remembering and sharing a short story about times gone by; family videos that you can create in advance and play during your broadcast; elder time -- a period reserved for those surviving elders to tell stories about the family.
With buy-in from other family members, you can drum up interest from more family. Have people call each other with enthusiasm to invite them to this gathering. Let the magic happen!
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 35-year-old single woman with no kids. The past few years, I have been focused mainly on my career in TV production, and I have never married and barely date. At my last doctor's visit, my doctor explained to me that at my age, the chances of me becoming pregnant are getting slim, and there are increased risks and complications if I do get pregnant. I want kids, and I don't want to miss my opportunity waiting for the right guy. So I am looking into other options. As a woman who is 110% focused and committed to her career, do you think seeking a sperm donor to be a single mother can be an option or is the better option to look into adoption? -- Craving Motherhood
DEAR CRAVING MOTHERHOOD: Modern technology has made it possible for one to become pregnant through artificial insemination. For some, this is miraculous. This certainly is an option for you. Another could be adoption.
Whatever you choose, also take time to think through how you will care for a child. Your schedule will have to become more flexible, especially if you will be a single parent. Think through the needs and do research to learn as much as you can so that you set up your life for success as a mother. Good luck.