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home : columns October 21, 2018

New neighbor makes a bad first impression
A family moved into my neighborhood recently, and my husband and I immediately invited them over to welcome them. We included a few couples from our street, and everybody chipped in to make it a special event. We had a good time getting to know these people, but honestly, while most of us liked the wife, we found the husband to be obnoxious and standoffish. He didn't try to talk to us. More, he bragged about himself and his possessions. It was gross.

We did find the wife charming. She was pleasant and seemingly comfortable in her skin. She was as laid back as he was aggressive. I want to continue getting to know her, but I really don't want to have to keep inviting her husband to things. Is it OK to scratch him off the list?

Saturday, October 20, 2018


Neighbor's room rentals cause disturbances
I have noticed a lot of people coming in and out of my next-door neighbor's apartment. Mostly, they seem to be tourist types. A couple have been loud and kind of rowdy. I think she is renting out rooms in her home. There are too many people coming and going for these to be friend visits. I understand that people have to figure out how to make ends meet, but I have two small children, and I feel uncomfortable having so many people coming and going right next door to me. I'm pretty sure it's not legal to do this. My neighbor isn't open to talking to me. Should I call the police? I want to protect my kids.
Friday, October 19, 2018

Reader feels bad not giving money to homeless
I live in a neighborhood that has a whole range of people. I see businessmen in suits, young men who hang out on the street, old people pushing walkers and more and more homeless people. I like that there is a variety of people. I feel good about not being in a homogeneous environment, but I am conflicted over what to do when people ask me for money every day. I am barely getting by myself. I do give to my church every month, but I don't have the money to give to homeless people who ask for it -- yet I feel bad ignoring them. I don't want to be one of those gentrified-type people who ignore people who have less than I do. What else can I do? I cannot afford to give them money.
Thursday, October 18, 2018

Christmas gifts don't need to cost a fortune
I know this seems like far, far away, but I'm planning for Christmas now. Usually we go all out with gifts for the family, but this year we don't have the usual kind of resources. My husband lost his job a few months ago, and we are struggling. I have no interest in bringing up our circumstances to family, but I do need to manage expectations. Most of our family's kids are teens or young adults, so the gifts are going primarily to people who don't really need anything anyway -- grown siblings, aunts and uncles and my parents. How can I cut back on gifts without offending folks?
Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Wig-wearer scared to share her secret
 I have been dating a guy for almost a year. He is super sweet, and we enjoy each other's company. I told him I wanted and needed to take it slow, and he has been patient. I don't want to rush into anything. But -- and this may sound weird -- one thing I'm really nervous about is that I wear a wig, and I don't think he knows it. I have never spent the night with him, but I know the time will come. Plus, I wear different wigs for different occasions -- like ponytails for tennis and a bun wig for swimming. I don't think he notices. He definitely never says anything. How can I tell him that my hair isn't "my" hair? This feels almost as intimate as disrobing
Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Parent needs to have conversation with teens
Forget whether he becomes a Supreme Court justice for a moment; I'm worried about my kids possibly becoming numb to hearing about sexual misconduct and for it to seem commonplace and not worth reporting. I don't know how to address this situation to make it real for my children without getting involved in a political discussion. It's not that we avoid politics. We talk about that, too, but this is real and could happen to them.

I want to talk to my daughter and son about what they would do if they were faced with a potentially dangerous situation like the one being described. How do I approach this?

Monday, October 15, 2018

Neighborhood spirit dies as it gentrifies

I know that change is part of life, but I hate that I'm thinking of moving because of what's happening to my neighborhood. I have seen newcomers look down at people who have been here for generations. This summer was the worst. New neighbors called the police a few times because folks were sitting outside talking and laughing at night on the weekend. It's like they want the traditions to end so that they can be comfortable. I don't appreciate that. What can I do to help keep the spirit alive instead of giving up?

Saturday, October 13, 2018

Weekly outings are above woman's pay grade
I have become part of a group of female colleagues at my job who like to go out for dinner and drinks once a week. It's nice to get to know these women, but I am in an entry-level role, and I can't afford to keep up with them. I don't want to come off as not wanting to spend time with them, and I also don't want to cry poor. How can I handle this? I know that bonding with colleagues can lead to opportunities, but this weekly engagement is way above my pay grade.
Friday, October 12, 2018

Friend hides work promotion from controlling husband
My friend told me she is afraid that if I brag about her and put anything on social media, her husband may learn about it and get mad at her. I think this sounds crazy. Hiding who she is from the man she is married to doesn't make sense to me. Plus, her children have no idea how amazing their mother is. This is weird and unhealthy, from my perspective, yet they have been married and doing this for more than 15 years. How can I get her to see that?
Thursday, October 11, 2018

Cougar friend obsessed with beau's age
A friend of mine has been single for years. Recently, she started dating a guy who is 13 years her junior. She seems really happy, but she also seems obsessed with his age. She showed me a picture of the two of them and then went on and on about how she doesn't mean to be a cougar. She asked me a million times if she looks young for her age. She does, but I couldn't lie and tell her she looks as young as her boyfriend. I did tell her that they look happy in the photo, and if they like each other, that's all that counts. She keeps asking for reassurances. What else can I say?
Wednesday, October 10, 2018

World Almanac
Today is the 282nd day of 2018 and the 18th day of autumn.
Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Married couple sleeps in separate rooms
My husband and I no longer sleep in the same room. It all started when the air conditioner broke in our bedroom. It was so hot that I couldn't sleep in there. Now I have been sleeping in the living room for several months -- and I like it. No snoring. No interruptions. Everything else is pretty much the same, except for where we lay our heads. Does it seem odd that I like being in the other room better? Do you think this is a sign of trouble in our marriage?
Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Husband wants son to wait to learn to drive
It is time for my son to take driver's ed, and I am happy about it. We live in the suburbs. Once he masters driving, I won't have to take him everywhere. He is a responsible young man, and I know he will do his best to be a good driver. My husband, however, is skeptical about the whole thing. He thinks my son should wait until he is 18 to learn to drive. I think that's way too late, for two reasons. First, I'm tired of being his chauffeur. My husband rarely takes him anywhere. But also, he will be heading off to college at 18. I want him to become a good driver while we are still in his orbit. I think it's a mistake to wait that long. I don't want to argue with my husband. How can I get him to understand?
Monday, October 8, 2018

Father's personality changes after stroke
DEAR HARRIETTE: My father just suffered a stroke and is in a terrible state. He has started yelling and cursing at the doctors and nurses in the hospital. He has been incredibly rude and disrespectful in ways that are downright shocking to the family. He has said racist things to doctors from other countries. It's awful. He never behaved like this before.
Saturday, October 6, 2018

Co-worker gets everyone in open office sick
DEAR HARRIETTE: I work in an office with an open format. Mostly we work in cubicles. Recently, this has presented a problem. One of my co-workers was really sick, but he came to work anyway. I get that; we have a lot of work to do, and he didn't want to be a slacker.
Friday, October 5, 2018

Co-worker tries too hard to be friends
There's a woman at my job who has decided that she wants me to be her best friend. Whenever she has a free moment, she hovers by my desk. She tries to go to lunch with me when I go out. She's the first to sign up if co-workers want to go out for drinks -- if she hears that I am going. This woman is cramping my style. I like her fine, but she is acting like a stalker. How can I get her to give me some space?
Thursday, October 4, 2018

Teenage kids refuse to wear jackets
I have the hardest time trying to get my teenage daughter and son to wear a jacket when the weather turns cold. For some reason, these young people are averse to jackets and coats, even when it's really cool outside.

I know it is my responsibility to protect my children, but I honestly don't know what to do to get them to dress properly without getting into an argument in the morning.

Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Former boss feels bad for not attending weddings
One of my former employees got married a month ago. I was unable to attend because I had to work. Another is getting married in the fall, and once again I am not available for the bridal shower. The day conflicts with a previously scheduled trip for my daughter's school. I feel bad that I cannot be there for these young women who thought enough of me to invite me to participate in this important moment in their lives. How can I make it up to them? I want them to know how much I care about them and how happy I am for this next step in their lives.
Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Busy parent needs to take time for self-care
I have way too much on my plate. I have a busy job. I have three kids and an injured husband. I volunteer at my church and at my kids' school. This is what my mother did when I was growing up, so I thought that I was following in her footsteps. Honestly, I don't know how she did it. I am exhausted, and I never seem to have time for myself -- whatever that means. I want to carve out even a little bit of "me" time, but I'm not sure how. Can you help?
Monday, October 1, 2018

Man disparages neighbor's body
Much to my horror, when one of my neighbors held the door for me the other day, he yelled to me to run. I was just coming from a serious workout at the gym and didn't feel like running, even though I was moving quickly. He added, "You need to run so you can lose that belly." I was shocked. Yes, I am overweight, which is why I have been going to the gym. But I don't even know this man's name! How dare he say that to me! I was so shocked that I didn't say anything; I just glared at him. But I wonder if I should follow up with a comment.
Saturday, September 29, 2018

Employee angry when passed over for better job
I feel terrible right now. I have been passed up yet again for a job I really wanted. The person who got it is an industry friend. I know I should be happy for her, but it's hard to feel that. I believe I was more qualified for the job. Obviously only one person could get it, but it should have been me. The company made a big announcement this week, and I am so upset about it. How can I quiet my negative feelings on this one? I know I should reach out to this woman and congratulate her, turn the page and look for something else. But right now, all I want to do is scream.
Friday, September 28, 2018

Friend with eating disorder has lost more weight
I saw her the other day after many months of talking only occasionally over the phone. She looks smaller than ever. She has gotten so frail. I am worried about her, but I'm not sure how I can be of help. Do I bring it up and ask her what's going on? Do I tell her that I can see that she has lost weight? Do I say nothing? I think I would be mad if my friends started asking me about my weight fluctuations.
Thursday, September 27, 2018

Berating boss makes work intolerable
I talked to my husband about it, and he told me I should walk away from the job. He says I shouldn't stay in a situation that is toxic. I reminded him of how tight our finances are. He said, "When one door closes, another door opens." I'm afraid to leave this job. I have another friend who didn't like his job and walked, and now he is struggling way worse. What should I do?
Wednesday, September 26, 2018

Teenage daughter apathetic about going to polls
I have been taking my daughter to vote with me since she was born. She is a teenager now, and getting closer to the age when she will be able to vote. The midterm elections are coming up, and I reminded her that we are going to be voting soon. She shrugged it off because it means she has to get up earlier than normal before going to school. These days it is always a fight to get her out of bed and to school on time. Still, I do not want to break our tradition. To me, it's even more important for her to go with me when I cast my ballot as she prepares to become a voter herself. How can I be sure that I can get her to comply?
Tuesday, September 25, 2018

Woman's paycheck is smaller than male co-worker's
I know that we live in a country where women still make less than men, but I didn't think it would be this blatant. I am furious. Yes, I need this gig, but I can't act like I don't know this. How should I proceed?
Monday, September 24, 2018

Woman wants to call out friend on hypocrisy
DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend, "Clare," has been dating her boyfriend for almost four years, and I honestly haven't seen her at all. Clare's boyfriend is very active and out there, and to put this mildly, she follows him around like a puppy. She spends all her time with him. My girlfriends and I never said anything to her because we were just happy that she was so happy with him.
Saturday, September 22, 2018

Work-from-home mom's behavior annoys baby sitter
DEAR HARRIETTE: Whenever I baby-sit for this family, the mom works from home. I understand that she can't cater to her children and work at the same time, but it makes me uncomfortable.
Friday, September 21, 2018

Mom's fiance shares more with siblings
My mother just got engaged. I am happy for her, and I like my mom's fiance. I feel nothing but happiness when it comes to the engagement. Last week, I found out that my mom's fiance told my siblings about the proposal a couple of weeks ago, before telling me. I wonder why he chose to tell them before me. I always considered us pretty close, but after finding this out, I can't help but think about the future of our relationship and if he will continue to keep things from me and not my siblings. Is this abnormal? Do you think I should speak up?
Thursday, September 20, 2018

Daughter heading to high school must be cautious
I am worried about my daughter. She is headed to high school -- a large school compared to the one she attended for the last eight years. She has largely been sheltered, even though we do talk about what goes on in the world and how she should take care of herself.
Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Nagging husband loses key fob
My husband and I just got a new car. Our previous car had no fancy computer abilities, so we are still getting used to this one. Our car starts without a key, though the key fob -- something I had never even heard of before -- has to be in the car. My husband has been adamant about both of us carrying our key fobs, even if only one of us is going to drive, because he says the fob identifies the driver. He has been pushy about us each having our fobs with us, and he reprimands me if I don't have mine.

Fast forward to this weekend: We went away for a few days, and he seems to have lost his key fob. He's upset about it, but I'm just glad it wasn't me. He would have been yelling at me and telling me how irresponsible I am. Instead he's just upset and looking for his key. I'm sorry he lost it, and I don't want to rub it in, but part of me wants to point out that he would be handling this differently if the roles were reversed. Do I let it go or say something?

Tuesday, September 18, 2018

After reflection, career striver has regrets
I had some time to myself this summer and was able to be quiet and assess my life. It was a great experience, but during my contemplation, I remembered some things that I did in my past that are disturbing. I'm talking about choices that I made that were rude or mean or short-sighted. In retrospect, I can't believe how selfish I was while trying to build my career. There have been a few occasions when the way I reacted to people I care about just didn't matter in the moment. I am ashamed about some of these moments, and I wonder what I should do. I know that most people have done bad things, but should I do something about it? Should I reach out to the people I think I was rude to and apologize for my behavior?
Monday, September 17, 2018

Employee desires more quiet in the office
DEAR HARRIETTE: I work in an office with a lot of young people who are pretty rambunctious and loud. I hate sounding like an old lady, but it is hard for me to get my work done because they are either gossiping with each other, looking at videos online or otherwise talking. I don't understand how they do it.
Saturday, September 15, 2018

Neighbor feels bad for ignoring Puerto Ricans' suffering
DEAR HARRIETTE: I live in New York City, where there are a lot of people from Puerto Rico. One of my neighbors has been complaining for months about how slowly the government has responded to the devastation of Hurricane Maria. I have to admit that I got tired of listening to her complaints after a while. So many other problems in life have come up, plus we were getting general notifications that aid was coming to the island.
Now it seems that the support has not been available as needed. And way more people died than was first thought. I feel horrible for my neighbor and her relatives who are stuck in Puerto Rico and who have few resources. I feel like I should apologize to her for not understanding. I also want to help even though I'm strapped for cash. Is there anything else I can do? -- Help for Puerto Rico, Bronx, New York

Friday, September 14, 2018

Boyfriend turns down friend's vacation suggestion
My good friend is talking about organizing a vacation in the spring, and she asked my boyfriend and me if we would like to participate. The way she does this is to find a few couples or individuals who want to go in on a house and then rent it together. This makes it more affordable and easier to get a nicer house. I like the idea, but my boyfriend isn't so into it. He doesn't think he will like sharing a house with six or eight people. He says it feels like college, and we are grown now. I see his point, but I think it could be fun. Plus, we have been talking about taking a vacation but hesitant because of the cost. I want to convince him to try this out at least once to see if we like it. How can I get him to reconsider?
Thursday, September 13, 2018

Publicist must stand up to demanding family
I work as a freelance publicist. I have been doing this for about five years, and it's going OK. The problem is that my friends and family are constantly asking me to do things for them for free. They feel like since they know me or are related to me, naturally I will do them a solid and help them out. I understand that in theory, but this is my livelihood. It's one thing to do a project once as a gift, but they come back again and again. Whenever I suggest they pay me, they get ornery and act like I am being greedy. How can I get people to pay for my services?
Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Harriette reflects on 9/11, John McCain
It's hard to believe that 17 years have passed since the fateful day when our understanding of peace changed in America and beyond. Those three planes filled with hate that decimated so many lives and destroyed even more hearts hit their targets on this day in 2001. Many people still live in a pre-9/11-vs.-post-9/11 world. Most still vividly remember where they were and what they were doing when thousands of lives were annihilated. Our world changed that day.
Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Son sees himself reflected in new school
I don't mean to sound discriminatory in any way, but I think it's natural for parents to want their children to be exposed to people from their own community when they begin to date. It was illegal for many blacks to date whites just two generations ago, so I don't think I'm out of line to think this.
Monday, September 10, 2018

Boyfriend insists woman not talk to grieving ex
DEAR HARRIETTE: My ex-boyfriend from college just lost his ex-wife. They were divorced for years, but they have a child together, so they stayed in touch. She had breast cancer and didn't survive. Their children are in middle school and obviously upset. I feel so sorry for him and want to be there to support him. We have stayed friendly over the years.
Saturday, September 8, 2018

Boss is too demanding during business trip
DEAR HARRIETTE: This will be my second time going on a business trip for my company. There are five of us who will be traveling and staying together in one house, and I am not looking forward to it. Last year when we did this, my boss was way too demanding. She wanted all of us to eat together every day. Sometimes that was OK, but other times I just wanted time to myself. She thought nothing of calling meetings late at night, since we were together. There seemed to be no boundaries.
Friday, September 7, 2018

Teenage daughter slept away the summer
At first, I let her sleep. I know she had a rigorous school year. But I am worried that she is going to be sluggish at school, given that it took everything I had to get her up to finish her summer assignments and be an active member in our household. What can I do to ensure that she will be an alert and attentive student?
Thursday, September 6, 2018

Pre-diabetic can help self by making changes
I want to take back my health and not succumb to a ton of meds every night. I have talked to my doctor about how I might get healthier with diet and exercise. Do you think it's wrong of me to try these measures before I report to my family that I am like all of them -- getting sick?
Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Chef asks for feedback about bad meal
I went to a dinner party where the food wasn't good. I was sitting in the kitchen toward the end of the evening, chilling, when the chef started talking to me. She was nice and had worked hard to make the event fun. She asked me what I thought of the meal, and I wasn't sure what to say. The party's host is my friend, so I wanted to be sensitive to the situation, but honestly, the food was not good. It was bland and boring. I didn't really answer her, and I'm not sure if that was helpful. Feedback can be helpful if people want to improve. I didn't want to make waves. What do you think I should have done?
Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Politics getting in the way of family time
I am so tired of politics. My husband seems to live and breathe it. From the moment he wakes up until he goes to sleep, he has the TV tuned to cable news programs, and he devours whatever they have to say. It's like life has become its own reality show, and I just want it to stop. At the same time, I want to spend time with my husband. How can I get him to take time off from the news to spend more time with the family
Monday, September 3, 2018

Roommate's girlfriend is too invasive
When he goes to sleep, she will come out and watch TV with me in the living room. I didn't think much of it at first, but it's starting to weird me out. She asks me personal and invasive questions that I don't answer. A few times, I felt like she was coming on to me. My buddy is starting to get serious with this girl, and I want to warn him about my encounters with her. Do you think it's selfish of me to bring up some of the things I found alarming?
Friday, August 31, 2018

Woman wants breast reduction against parents' wishes
I don't care what I look like; I am in physical pain. I have tried explaining it to my parents, but they don't understand, especially my flat-chested mom. Do you think I should schedule an appointment to hear a doctor's point of view?
Thursday, August 30, 2018

High school freshman worried about appearance
I feel like I'm the only rising freshman with bad skin and braces. Am I ever going to get over my insecurities?
Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Roommate wants distance when lease is up
I don't want the negative energy in my life anymore; it's been so upsetting. How do I remove her from my life when she's been in it for so long?
Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Freelancer needs to get out of summer slump
I think of myself as a smart person, but you would never know by how I am right about now. I don't have enough money to pay my bills or to eat. What can you recommend I do so that I don't get in this situation again? Making excuses for why I can't pay my bills is getting old.
Monday, August 27, 2018

Seeing friends' marriage woes spurs reader to action
DEAR HARRIETTE: Two of my close friends are going through a hard time in their marriage. The wife confided in me when asking for a suggestion for a therapist. While she was sharing what was going on, I realized that her marriage is way better off than my own. What's more, she is addressing their issues head-on. I stopped fighting for things that I think are important years ago because it always turned into an argument.
Friday, August 24, 2018

Mother in different country wants kid to visit often
I enjoy going to see her and visiting the family I have there, but my mother has been nagging me a lot more than usual recently. Every time I take a vacation with my boyfriend or go away with my girlfriends, she questions why I did not visit her. I try to explain to her that a flight to Brazil costs a lot more than a flight to Florida and that I can't spend all my vacation days on her. Do you have any advice on how I can handle this situation without hurting my mother's feelings?
Thursday, August 23, 2018

Employee questions company values
If I don't have the same values, am I being a hypocrite to continue to work with people who have opposing views?
Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Reader thinks friend's body still not bikini-ready
She looks better than she did, but she still has major cellulite and a huge, loose belly. I don't think she should show off the "new" body that is still in progress. I think dressing more modestly can showcase her new positives without revealing too much. How can I get her to hear me?
Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Manipulative friend contacts reader only for favors
I have a friend who contacts me only when he needs something. He is charismatic and charming, so I usually find myself agreeing to do whatever he suggests, but it makes me mad. When I need him to do something for me, I often cannot get him on the phone. He disappears for days, weeks, sometimes months on end, only to resurface with an urgent request. If I don't respond right away, he gets indignant. How can I manage these dynamics better? I'm beginning to feel used. --
Monday, August 20, 2018

Loud friend only wants to gossip
I like to talk about ideas and experiences. When I try to get her to talk about other things, she tries for a while, but the conversation almost always veers back to gossip. How can I maintain my friendship with her and keep my sanity as well?
Saturday, August 18, 2018

Man embarrassed that family can't swim
The kids can put on life vests and stay in the shallow end, but I would look like a fool with those floaties on. Should we go? Is it too late for me and my family to learn how to swim?
Friday, August 17, 2018

Invitation to summer house raises questions
The girl's parents seem nice and grounded. She seems to be genuinely interested in becoming closer to my daughter. Should I let my daughter spend the weekend with them?
Thursday, August 16, 2018

Parents want child to attend medical school
Medical school is the last thing that I want to do, and my parents don't understand. I keep telling them that I don't want to go to medical school, but they aren't listening. They say I should look at my brothers and be more like them, but I don't want to be. I want to do my own thing. Why don't they understand?
Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Former homebody blossoms in new city
What should I do? Stay here in San Francisco or go home to where I am comfortable?
Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Employee wants to forget what she saw
DEAR HARRIETTE: I work at a law firm in New York City. Recently, I was working late on a case, so I went out to get dinner. When I got back to the office, I heard a strange sound coming from my boss's office. I was worried -- I'm a 25-year-old single woman -- so I peered into the office.
Monday, August 13, 2018

Boyfriend's ex makes passes at family functions
DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend is friends with his ex-girlfriend -- not because they want to be friends, but because their families are friends. They grew up together, and their families are extremely close. He dated this girl for two years before they broke up. I met my boyfriend in college, and we have been dating for just over two years.
Saturday, August 11, 2018

New author may have named too many names
DEAR HARRIETTE: I had a hard life growing up, but I have done well for myself. Many people suggested that I write a book about my experiences, and I decided to go for it -- and now I am finished. I decided to self-publish because it was too hard to find a publisher.
Thursday, August 9, 2018

Alzheimer's caregiver needs support, not judgment
I'm not sure how I feel about this. It's really none of my business, but there he was with this woman. I can't imagine what it's like to go through this. I don't want to judge him. How should I react?
Thursday, August 9, 2018

Reader angry when friend dumps his ex
I'm mad at him for not sticking it out with her. She has been through so much. I feel bad for her. Should I say anything to him?
Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Reader questions own sobriety after celebrity relapse
I think I have gotten far enough away from the lure of that life, but I wonder: If it could happen to someone like Demi, could it happen to me?
Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Sister's behavior worries high school senior
I don't want to rat her out, but I do think that she needs to calm down because I'm starting to worry about her. Do you think that I should have a talk with my sister before I get my parents involved?
Monday, August 6, 2018

Mom wants new way to share manicures with daughter
How can I keep up this tradition in a healthier manner?
Saturday, August 4, 2018

Student catches teacher buying drugs
Do you think I should try talking to his superior, my parents or his colleagues, or do I do my best to forget about it?
Friday, August 3, 2018

Teenage girl wants female confidante
My whole life has always been dominated by men, which was never an issue before now. I want to talk about girl things with an adult, but I don't know who to turn to.
Thursday, August 2, 2018

High school senior doesn't want to attend college
I don't want to go to college. I know that everyone would advise me to go, but I don't want to. When I talk about this with my parents, they don't listen because they think it's ridiculous. I don't know what would genuinely make me want to go. Is it that terrible that I don't want to get a college degree?
Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Husband questions staying together for the kids
I want to do what is best for my family, which I think would be staying together with my wife, but I am unsure of how much longer my heart can bear this relationship. Any words of advice?
Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Recent graduate having trouble landing a job
I've had internship experiences and did well in school, but can't seem to find anything. It's embarrassing when people ask me what I've been up to and I have to say I'm looking for work. Am I ever going to get a job?
Monday, July 30, 2018

Parents' fighting upsets family
DEAR HARRIETTE: My parents have been arguing a lot for the past couple of months. Although they argue, I don't think they would ever consider separating or getting a divorce. I know that it's not my place to say anything, but I am the oldest of four sisters, and I think that my parents need to change.
Saturday, July 28, 2018

Sharing about struggles helps friend feel less alone
DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my girlfriends confided in me that she is having marital struggles. I felt bad for her. Clearly, she is going through a tough time. I did my best to listen well and to talk less, but in the end, I told her that I have been having my own struggles, and if we are being honest, a few of our mutual friends have had some ups and downs of late. I didn't say this to diminish her personal issues, but it is true that for those of us who have been married for a few years (some for more than 10), stuff comes up.
Friday, July 27, 2018

Baby sitter feels uneasy around employers
I didn't get a good feeling about the parents, but the kids seem easy and adorable. Do you think I should take the job even if I don't feel comfortable around the parents?
Thursday, July 26, 2018

Don't make assumptions about wedding plus-ones
What is the proper etiquette about wedding invites? If he is one of my best friends, shouldn't I get a plus-one?
Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Reader should seek help for midlife crisis
Sometimes I don't feel like getting out of bed because it costs more for me to get up and eat, drive -- everything. I know I'm in a bad place. Can you help me?
Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Memories of husband affect dating 15 years later
My husband was a wonderful man. He was kind and attentive. I'm not saying he was perfect, but he was perfect for me. Every time I date, I hold men up to my husband as the standard. They never win the contest. How can I learn to look at them for who they are?
Monday, July 23, 2018















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